Self-Esteem & Identity Therapy 

Do You Feel Like You've Lost Yourself Completely

You look in the mirror and barely recognize the person staring back. Somewhere along the way, you stopped doing things you enjoyed, stopped expressing your opinions, and started molding yourself into what others wanted you to be. Now you feel empty, like you're just going through the motions of life without any sense of who you really are.

You've become an expert at reading other people's needs and moods, but you have no idea what you actually want or need. You say yes when you mean no, apologize for things that aren't your fault, and feel guilty for taking up space or having needs.

The emotional cost of losing your identity runs deep:

• Feeling empty or numb, like you're just existing rather than truly living
• Constant anxiety about disappointing others or not being good enough
• Deep loneliness even when surrounded by people because no one knows the real you
• Exhaustion from constantly trying to earn love and approval through perfect behavior

You weren't born to live this small. I help women reconnect with their authentic selves, understand their inherent worth, and build the confidence to show up as who they really are in all areas of life. Your identity isn't lost - it's just buried under layers of conditioning that we can work through together.

What Is Self-Esteem and Identity Therapy?

Self-esteem and identity therapy helps you reconnect with your authentic self and understand your inherent value as a person. This work goes beyond surface-level self-esteem to address the deep beliefs and patterns that keep you feeling small, unworthy, or invisible.

You're not selfish or wrong for wanting to know who you are. Many women lose touch with their authentic selves through relationships, family dynamics, or social conditioning that teaches them their value comes from serving others or being "good."

Signs you might benefit from self-esteem and identity work:

• Feeling like you don't know who you are outside of your relationships or roles
• Difficulty making decisions because you're not sure what you actually want
• Constantly seeking approval and feeling devastated when you don't get it
• Feeling guilty or selfish when you prioritize your own needs or desires
• Living your life based on what others expect rather than what feels authentic to you
  

Why Choose Renovated Heart Counseling for Self-Esteem Work?

I specialize in helping women who have lost themselves in relationships or through trying to meet everyone else's expectations. My 12 years of experience working with women who struggle with self-worth gives me deep insight into the patterns that keep you feeling small and the steps needed to reclaim your authentic self.

I believe you already have everything you need within you, we just need to clear away the beliefs and patterns that are covering up your natural strength and wisdom. My approach focuses on helping you reconnect with your values, desires, and inherent worth while building practical skills to live authentically in your daily life.

Living Authentically Opens the Door to True Fulfillment

Without addressing these deeper identity and self-worth issues, you'll continue feeling empty and disconnected from your life. You might achieve external success or maintain relationships, but you'll always feel like something is missing. The constant need for validation and approval will keep you anxious and exhausted.

When you do this work, everything changes. You'll wake up excited about your life because you're living according to your authentic values and desires. You'll feel confident making decisions because you trust your judgment. Your relationships will improve because you'll attract people who appreciate the real you, and you'll feel comfortable being vulnerable and honest. Most importantly, you'll experience the deep satisfaction that comes from knowing and liking yourself.

Your Life Deserves to Be Yours

Without this foundational work, you'll continue feeling empty and disconnected no matter what you achieve externally. You might maintain relationships or career success, but you'll always feel like something crucial is missing. The constant need to earn love and approval will keep you anxious, and you'll miss out on the deep fulfillment that comes from authentic living.

When you invest in understanding and valuing yourself, every area of your life improves. You'll make decisions that truly serve you, create relationships based on genuine connection, and wake up feeling excited about your life. You'll experience the peace and confidence that comes from knowing exactly who you are and liking that person.